maleficent

Conversations with my parents always had them saying. "We'll tell you something til we are blue in the face, and you are going to do exactly what you want to do..."

While i have an opinion and offfer advice on practically any subject,my opinion is based on my lifetime of experience, and it's just that - an opinion. I rarely expect anyone to take my advice, I would rather see people find their own way and do what feels right for them. I can only offer ideas of what I would do if I were them, and if nothing else, gives them another way to look at something.

I'm a very good listener, and I also hear very well, but I will rarely ask for guidance on something, because I would muchrather figure it out for myself, if the advice is offered , unsolicited, I'll "take it under advisement" usually consider the source, and then after weighing my options (Spontaneous I am not) will do what I want to do.

In later years, I've come across many "control freak" types, who actually get miffed if the advice that hey offered wasn't followed to the letter. Umm, you made a suggestion, I chose to not take it, thanks for playing our game.

I've never had a mentor, I think I'd drive one crazy. I've done some mentoring in the past... and the people I mentored seemed a little too needy and not as strong as they should be, that they weren't relying on themself and their judgement to do something. Part of mentoring them was getting them to trust their judgement and rely on themselves, right or wrong, they had to live with their decisions because it was ultimately thier life and their choice.

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