abaya

Thank you for all that you said in your post, Jess. And yes, I completely agree with your point about women... I am just giving her the benefit of the doubt, which I have to do because she is my friend. For the last year I have been watching her, and have examined her motives each time, and I will do this until she proves her character is stronger by making good decisions over time. It doesn't mean I like her less, but that I just know her better. Way better, I think, than she knows me.

Men or women, sometimes we really don't know what we're doing... we just go about things without considering all the ramifications. That's when things happen, when we're being careless about other people's feelings, real or imagined. I've been guilty of it many, many times in the past, and that's what I told ktspktsp yesterday. Women are socially programmed to be as subtle as possible in their dealings with others... almost subtle beyond our own recognition, if we're not careful. I'm not a cynic, but I know myself, and I know many other women.

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran