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Astrocloud · 05-24-2005, 11:28 AM

http://theedge.bostonherald.com/life...rticleid=84306

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For women, a roll in the hay can ruin your day
By Jennifer Rosinski
Monday, May 23, 2005 - Updated: 02:04 AM EST

One night of loving leads to lots of longing for most women who bed a man within minutes of their first meeting.

So says a recent Cosmopolitan magazine survey that found 62 percent of women ruing their raunchy one-time relations.

``You regret it the next morning - sometimes not even the next morning,'' said a 33-year-old Boston gal. ``Sometimes you wake up in the middle of the night and you think, `Did I really just do that?' Sometimes you just can't help yourself.''

Reasons women gave for their quick-time ardor range from too many drinks to trying to get over an old flame, said the report, which found 30 percent of women have one-night stands once a month and just 1 percent have them most weekends.

Few of those women said they did it because of chemistry or gave the ``Why not, we're consenting adults?'' explanation.

``Women are really wanting something more from sex than `bang, bang, roll over.' We're both hard-wired for wanting more and we're socialized to not want a quickie,'' said Cambridge sex therapist and researcher Gina Odgen, author of ``Women Who Love Sex.''

Lynn, 26, is in the minority it seems because she has no regrets about her two one-night stands.

``It was fun,'' said the now committed woman. ``I think a lot of women feel like there's this stereotype in society that women need to be virginal or close to virginal. There's still that stigma.''

Meanwhile, 40 percent of all men polled said they engage in one-nighters and 49 percent of those said they never feel an ounce of regret.

My own take on this is that women generally are very non-committal. This whole "regret" issue is a smokescreen method of detatching themselves from their behavior. I believe that these women generally think that they are 'too good' for the men that they sleep with -and that the only time that they won't regret it is if their partner is some famous athlete or a movie star or something.