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Tilted Cat Head
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Location: Manhattan, NY
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Originally Posted by abaya
He only wished, in a way, that instead of being told what to do by others, that he had experienced himself firsthand the "mistake" of going camping, and then decided on his own that it was a bad idea. I don't have an answer for this... it's fair enough, and I'm a learn-by-experience person too, but I also think it's even wiser to learn from others' mistakes and save yourself the heartache and stress from the aftereffect.
To me, that's what makes a person different from the crowd... they are smart enough to listen and learn from others, not to screw it up themselves the first time. It takes real humility to do that, and humility is something I put at the very top of my list of things that I find downright sexy. 
So I think we're on the right road again, and I'm so very grateful to have resolved this issue. Not to say there won't be others in the future! But this one seems to have played out well. Thank you again, TFP'ers.  |
wonderful that you two are interacting and communicating, that's quite important. I do find it interesting that the couples who are here as couples and resolve things with community members helping hash out candidly different view points and positions.
I quoted the above part because I find that an interesting line that I tow as an older brother, mentor, model citizen.
There's a point in time where the rhetoric and verbiage of learning and wisdom giving stops and actions have to take place.
I wrestled with this most my life as my father put a large burden on my shoulders to be a good brother to my younger sister.
Some of what makes me more resilient than my sister is because I had to navigate and figure it out by myself without the benefit of any wisdom from others.
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