Abaya, my ex would go with guy friends all the time to concerts and stay in hotels together instead of driving home late, etc. I believe that you have to let people make their own decisions because if they have weak character, you won't change that. The end result becomes a matter of when, not if. This is part of loving somebody, trusting he is the guy who will protect and care for your relationship whether you are around or not. Give him the opportunity to show you his love back.
With that said, this stood out to me...
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Originally Posted by abaya
He said that I'm being selfish, but that if I am really uncomfortable with it, he would tell our friend that I'm not okay with it and they wouldn't go... but that he would be irritated by being held back from doing something fun.
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I am very big on loyalty, probably over-sensitive to it. If he didn't go on the trip, he doesn't need to explain to your friend that it is your issue. First, it looks like a thinly veiled threat to "tell on you" and look like a victim to whoever will listen. Second, trust issues in your relationship aren't for your friends to mull over, and a level of privacy should be expected from each other in an intimate relationship.
Can you tell it hit a button??
I am sure it will be fine! One last thing - I double Cyn's statement, well put!
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And sometimes, we're just downright human beings, and it feels sucky, no more explanation needed and hug given
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