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Is it human to feel as you do, abaya? Sure. Is it normal? You bet. Is it unreasonable? Nope. Is it hard to deal with? Yeah, but if your desire is to protect your relationship and move forward, identifying your jealousy and discomfort for what it is is the first step, and the second is to just trust that your S.O. will do the right thing and make the right choice--you could tell him "I'm not comfortable with you going with her as I know you have had a history of liking her and I don't trust how she will act around you. I am uncomfortable with the fact that the two of you will be alone and sharing a tent together--in my mind that is an act of intimacy. I'm not telling you NOT to go, I'm just sharing with you some of the things that are making me uncomfortable about the situation, and I would appreciate it if there is something you could do to change it." For example, you might share with him that you would be more comfortable if he took another friend along or they slept in separate tents.
Abaya, I know plenty of girls who would put their foot down and tell him it's completely unacceptable to go--myself included, so this is sticky for me. I did have an S.O. who went off on a trip with another girl--a girl he used to like--with other people and ended up cheating on me with her. But you guys seem to have a generally healthy relationship, so I think you can work through this. Good luck.
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If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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