LOL I reversed it in my head... I got the guy going and the girl being iffy...
Well we can never talk of every permutation and situation, they change all the time. I'm okay with this, but not with that or this in variation A and C. We all tend to generalize a little bit to some degree, and then those generalizations can also lead to some assumption on the recieving end.
But let's focus on you because that's what we can control and effect change.
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Originally Posted by abaya
But you're right... here's the thing, I don't know if I ever talked the talk of being fine with things, since he knows how I am and I know how he is about certain things. We are both sucky human beings about particular things, and this is one of them for me. That's my predicament. How to rise above my gut feelings?
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First I'm going to give a more hardline answer (I'm trying to see if I sometimes don't look before I leap)
While you do try to not put the fox in the chicken coop, it's no surprise when the fox does eat the chickens. Since we are talking human beings, ultimately you have to trust him and her since you making an ultimatum will force a more negative outcome.
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He does know that this is a particular hot issue for you? Is camping an intimate bonding activity for you two even when you go with other people?
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