maleficent

Just tried to do some googling on how to stage an intervention for your friend... most of the resources it brings up are professionan interventioners... Maybe it does require a professional in case people get in over their heads.

What I might try to do with him is lay my cards on the table -- if you are angry at his behavior - say so - if you are hurt by his behavior - say so... A drug abuser (and alcohol abuser as well --which is where most of my experience lies) doesn't see what their behavior does to the people that care about them.

Ask him point blank if he wants to stop. Crack I realize is a pretty powerful drug and people won't necessarily want to stop because of what it does for them. Ask him if he likes what he's becoming... stealing from his friends and lying to his friends. That may be enough reason to stop.

Layout a plan for him to get the help. You guys will be with him along the way to hold him up... but honestly, unless you've been in that situation, you don't know what he's going thru... That's why somehting like NA might be great because he could get a sponsor who's been thru all the stages and knows what to expect.

If he doesn't follow thru on the plan.. then what? Yes, he might stumble a few times... but accountability will be important.. it will be just as hard for you guys as well... If he steals from you? What will you do... remember you are doing this because you love him and you want to help him... it might be something pretty drastic that you have to do. Follow thru on whatever you say you will do... Don't let him get away with anything.

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