abaya

I think this is exactly the perspective needed by people who both choose to have kids, and those who choose not to.

For those of us who don't feel like having them (as of yet), I think it's because we understand exactly how much work it is, and in a sense we aren't ready to "become a better person" (many of us are afraid of what that might entail -- I know I am, though I'm trying to become a better person before having kids, so I will screw them up less).

For those who have chosen to have kids, or accidentally had them... well, that's baptism by fire, isn't it? You learn as you go... and if you are a good parent, my hats are off to you. Somebody's gotta do it, and you might as well do it well.

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran