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Originally Posted by Martel
If this guy just has trouble saying things about you looking nice or something, try working up to it.
Start with something like putting on something you know (or think) he likes, then asking him if he likes the way you look in it.
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I've tried that. Didn't do anything. When I said, "Does this look nice?" he said "Yeah, looks nice" and then changed the subject. I took him clothes shopping with me and when I would directly ask him if it looked nice, he would say yes, even sound enthused. But that's being like... nagged into it. And it certainly didn't lead to anything spontaneous.
Like I said, maybe once a week he will dole out an offhanded, mild comment about something I'm wearing. But never anything about me specifically. He did go the opposite way and complain when I cut off my hair, to which I sharply replied that if he liked it, he should have said something nice about it when I had it, instead of raving about the hair of a girl we know to the point where he said it was so great he'd fuck her and she wouldn't even need a face. And just so you know, THOSE kind of comments are striken from our communication because in our talking, he DID understand what shit it was to talk like that in front of your significant other. Progress, I guess.
Anyway, I'm going to try talking to him again. And this will be the last time. If it doesn't change this time, I will just have to resign myself to the fact that that's the status quo. Because he's fantastic in every other way, and I really do love him.