I suggest this book, which I've only thumbed throut at the moment but need to read cover to cover.
Smart Couples Finish Rich : 9 Steps to Creating a Rich Future for You and Your Partner
abaya you're very astute in your observations here.
the savings should go to long term security etc. and not to give the other, more spending money as it creates that resentment we're trying to avoid here from the OP.
the fundamental difference is verbiage... MY vs. OUR the allowance is also OURs in case of distress like unemployement or emergency, but its not reduced or taken from just one, it has to be done across the board.
What I take from the conversations that I've had with other couples who I consider strong in their relationship emotionally, spiritually, and financially, is that they are moving as a TEAM or PARTNERSHIP in ALL aspects of their relationship not just some or parts.
__________________
I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not.
|