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I think the allowance is the important part, yes. I think the equal allowance part does not come out of just giving extra money from the higher-earning partner to the lower-earning partner. Both agree to have, say, $400 to spend. Then Higher Earner puts the extra $302 in savings, and the lower-earner puts the extra $11 in savings. That way one person doesn't have more discretionary funds than the other, but they are both contributing to long-term security.

Gilda, am I totally off?

OP, is this helping at all??? I feel like we've digressed.

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