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/jumps on Jess' ranting bandwagon.
Telling someone that they have self-esteem issues is the opposite of helping that person. Whether or not they have those issues, telling them this straight-out can only make them feel worse.
Feelings are feelings, and they are valid. We on TFP are generally good about seeing things this way; even if someone is being completely irrational, we give them space to feel and express that.
I don't think one should depend on someone else to make one happy, either. HOWEVER: in a relationship, there is a certain expectation to help the other person to know that they are loved, supported, cared for, affirmed. That is not dependancy, that's being in love and expressing it, physically AND verbally. If the OP is not getting what she needs after two years, she needs to leave and find it elsewhere.
/end rant
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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