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Originally Posted by JustJess
I don't think you're being oversensitive or overemotional in the slightest. You may be overreacting to specific incidents, but that is common and understandable after seeing such a trend overall.
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Yep, I agree. This is a major issue, not one to be brushed away by being "oversensitive." This kind of stuff will make-it or break-it, in my view.
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Originally Posted by JustJess
In my personal life and observations, I find that actions speak very loudly - including the action of complimenting. I know that I am far from perfect, but my SO makes me feel beautiful and sexy by his words AND his actions. -snip- If there ARE "physical compliments" occuring, then I would also attribute this to a communication issue, and try to have a discussion and break the cycle of inaction/no change. If there aren't any physical compliments occuring, I would leave him.
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Jess, you said this beautifully... words ARE a part of actions, at least in my book. I think that yes, if he is trying to compliment you physically, at least you have that to build on... his heart is there, but he just doesn't have the skills to affirm you verbally (since that is one of your needs). Those skills can be learned. But if he isn't giving you
any affirmation, then definitely cut your losses and hit the road. He is not right for you and is wasting your time and energy when you could find someone who is a much better fit for you.