When people find the person that "they want to spend the rest of their lives with" sometimes they expect that person to automatically fill every "need" that they have- friendship, sex, love, self-esteem, etc. You can't expect one person to "complete" you, because it's impossible. If you are basing your entire existence off of one person and their opnion of you, you're going to have a miserable life. I know- I've done it. What happens on days when he's upset at something that has nothing to do with you? You're going to be miserable too.
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"There were also other things that fed into this, such as when we had to do a portrait assignment for one of our classes (yes, post secondary) and instead of using me as a subject --- I used him --- he chose one of the girls he was constantly complimenting (which, as far as I'm concerned, is a statement) and then spent hours editing the photos and using them in art. In the magazine he compiled for another class, he gave her a full page spread (including a suggestive photo of her licking the air), had numerous photos of scantily clad women, and my photo appeared nowhere."
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Have you TALKED to your fiancee about this? Communication is everything. Personally, I think you're reading way way too much into this incident. If you expected him to pick you because you picked him, without telling him that, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Your fiancee is not a mind reader- don't expect him to be one. You need to COMMUNICATE.
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