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Originally Posted by twinkle
A woman shouldn't expect positive attention from her significant other?
This has nothing to do with my self-esteem. This is a problem with him taking me for granted. See above.
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Should a woman expect positive attention from her significant other? If it is a problem for that person than I would think so. When I have or continue to offer compliments to others I've been involved with, it has been within the premise of being impressed enough to offer a compliment. Compliments for the sake of compliments are cheap. Expecting or thinking that one deserves compliments for whatever reason are even cheaper.
And if you think he is taking you for granted then obviously there is some sort of a communication breakdown. Have you spoken to him and expressed your concerns? Maybe he can better explain why he compliments others rather than you. Coming from him would probably be better than it coming from someone on this forum.
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So no, he doesn't help in making me feel attractive. And that has nothing to do with my self-esteem; as my fiance, it's part of the job description to make me feel loved, and compliments are part of that. Especially when he's free and easy with them to everyone else.
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I think you expect too much. It is no ones job to make you feel anything, be it attractive, happy, or whatever. That's your job. If you expect that from your fiance or anyone else, you need to dig deep and find why you feel that way.