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So for the sake of the discussion, are we defining sex as anything beyond first base? I mean it's much less foreign to me to be taking all these things in account for sex, because I've always seen that as a huge commitment of intimacy, especially when virginity was involved, but it's a bit of surprise to me to be taking things as much into account for what I'd seen more as "fooling around". I still assign plenty of value to anything of the hands and mouth variety, but it always seemed to me as something developed along with the emotional part of the relationship. So feel free to clarify/comment on that at will.
So right now my girlfriend views sex as something seeming unromantic and primal, and admits this is not a healthy perspective but one that she's been conditioned to over time. Though it's getting increasingly difficult to find an outlet for all emotions I have that carry over into the physical part of things, I feel like I could definetly handle waiting for an extended period of time. The thing I'm less eager about is having to deal with this particular hangup after we're in college and have the long distance issue to deal with as well. So assuming she decides developing things physically is not something she wants to do for now, is there any other way to ease her out of this perspective and help her see sex (in the right contex of course) as a healthy and romantic thing to make things easier once she physically feels ready?
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