If this is affecting you so significantly, you may want to atke a look at the relationship before you get married and make sure that you're really as compatible as you think you are.
I don't care what your mother told you, I don't care what all those womens' magazines tell you, I don't care what TV shows and every other aspect of society tells you, you cannot change someone and make them perfect in your eyes. If this is such a big deal that you're asking for advice on how to change it, you have to consider the likely situation that it will not change and you'll be kicking yourself for it later.
From his point of view, it may be completely different. He may have had some sort of experience in teh past that makes him bite his tongue when he wants to say something nice. It's easy to talk about people who can't hear you and willb e gone in as little time as it takes to walk past, but ir's difficult to say something to you because of some subconscious fear of saying the wrong thing and offending you, or somehow screwing up. There's also the possibility that he's concealing the fact that he's emotionally growing apart from you and can't find a way to say it directly. He could be conscioously or subconsciously letting you know that he doesn't feel the same as he used to and wants you to do something about it so that he doesn't feel guilty. There's also a possibility that there's such a huge communication problem that he thinks he's complimenting you every way but verbally and either isn't, or is doing it in a way that you don't see or choose not to see. It seems apparent that you have a pre-existing self-esteem isue connected to your physical apperance, and that also has to be addressed.
If anyone is still reading after that rambnling, the point I'm trying to make is that this is all about a lack of understanding and communication between two people, and they need to do more than occasionally talk about it, give and accept an apology, and go back into the same routine.
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