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Originally Posted by Gilda
The allowance rule works like this: She gets no say whatsoever in how I want to spend my allowance. If I want to spend $329 on a Brave and Bold 28, she doesn't get to complain. If she wants to buy a samurai sword, I don't get to complain. All food, joint entertainment, household bills such as electricity, cable bills, car payments, phone bills, etc. come out of our joint checking, and nobody touches the savings without consulting the other.
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Gilda, how did you and Grace come up with this great plan? I really like it... you've outlined a very fair and equitable way of managing finances, as far as I can see it. Even though your salaries are disparate, you pay for all joint expenses based on percentages earned... but you also can't "out-spend" each other since your allowances are the same. Thank you for the clear explanation of your approach!
Communication, communication, communication. At this point for the OP, I'd say that the more honest, the better. Hell I'd even go for blunt, since your circumstances seem quite dire. But don't get fatalistic man, it sounds like you're pretty depressed too when it comes down to it. Reading between the lines, it seems there are some serious issues going on besides the money, and it's just emerging in the money stress (much like sex is always symptomatic of deeper things in the relationship).
Okay, enough sex analogies for today! (just made another one in thread on spirituality)
