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First off, you need to relax. Secondly, you need to tell her how you feel. Third, you need to eliminate the idea from your head that a woman giving you oral sex is somehow degrading to the woman. It's not, at all. It's our choice to let you put your penis in our mouth, and let me tell you, the woman possesses all the power in that situation if she's doing it right. So if what turns you off about oral sex is thinking about it as some kind of male-dominated power play, remember there is a lot of power in getting someone off. For me, I always feel like I'm in control when I'm giving a blow job. Preferably I like the man to lay down so I'm in a more dominant position and can deep-throat more easily--there's nothing like watching a guy go crazy from pleasure, and there is power in that, not degradation on either part.
Healthy sexual behaviors (such as oral sex, intercourse, and anal sex) should feasibly be able to be executed without any sense of degradation on the part of either partner. But open communication about preferences is key to accomplishing that.
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If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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