twinkle

I wouldn't classify this as a dealbreaker, more of a disappointment. Falls into the "needs improvement" category.

I have been with my SO for nearly two years. We're getting married. But he never compliments me. At most, he'll say something complimentary about once a week, and it's something lukewarm at best ("You look nice.")

I know he can compliment. Before we were dating, he would often say complimentary things about other girls to me. And, in fact, after we were dating, he would say complimentary things to and about other girls in front of me. So it's not that he can't do it.

In my most recent major relationship before this (5 years/cohabitation) the guy all but ignored me, and did the same thing (compliments for others, nothing for me).

I am definitely not gorgeous. I'm chubby. But I'm not hideous. And I guess I just figured the person who was going to marry me would think enough of me to drop a compliment once in a while. And it frankly makes me feel like a hideous beast when he omits compliments this way.

I have talked to him about this three times (including this morning). Each time, he's all oh I'm sorry, oh I'm an ass. And then it goes back to me never getting a single compliment, which then leaves all the compliments he gave other girls ringing in my ears (insecure, yes I know, but I think most people would feel the same).

I'm just starting to feel like he really doesn't find me attractive. Or he's already taking me for granted in a big way. Neither of which *I* enjoy.

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