Cynthetiq

change is hard, change is scary, change requires doing something different.

first and foremost she needs to decide when she's ready to do whatever it is she's going to do. That's one issue.

Second issue, is the thought that her contribution isn't "ours" you need to discuss that with her. If that's how she thinks of it, you need to share with her your feelings as to how hurtful it is to you.

Money is not an easy subject to discuss with your significant other. Be patient and listen before speaking.

Here's some leading questions for thought:

If you were to take a second part time job, would that be "our" money or "my" money? Why not "my" money?

If suddenly I was (god forbid) laid off, hospitalized and suddenly you were the breadwinner, is it still "your" money?

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