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We get the same question on a regular basis. It seems you can never live up to other's expectations.
We waited 10 year after we were married to have our first, for many reasons, and had to endure the "So when are you having kids?" question the entire time. There were some people who would simply ask how many kids we had after they found out we had been married so long. It's as though there is a chart that references how many years you've been married, so therefore you should have x amount of kids.
Now that we've had Babygirl™ they ask, "So, when are you having another?" The worst is when they say "Well, don't you want her to have a brother?"
My answer always is "If it worked that way, yes" But, everyone knows that you roll the dice when you have kid and you get what you get. There is no way to guarantee a boy or a girl. And that really pisses me off. They act like I'm denying my daughter the ability to have a little brother by not having a second child.
A friend of our family has four boys. You wanna know why she had the last two? She was trying to have a girl. Not that the boys aren't loved and treated well, but that is a selfish reason to have kid.
I love my girl with all of my heart. She brings love and joy into my life in ways I could have never imagined. But, when and IF we are ready to have a second one, we will do so and take what we get. We will do it for our own reasons, not because we are expected to.
To all of you who put un-reasonable expectations on others, please do us all a favor and SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!
Thank you
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