Dunno if hubby's read this thread yet. (though I'm hoping he does.) He does know how I feel about it and apologizes about things. Apologies don't really cut it. He's great at expressing his affection other times. The effort to give gifts seems to be beyond him at this time.
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Originally Posted by StanT
I always make an effort to do something special for my wifes birthday because it is important to her. I blow off my own because I couldn't care less. For some reason that ticks her off as much as forgetting hers. Gifts are tough around our house. She works, I work, we both make reasonable salaries. What do you get someone that can and will get anything they really want? Add in the fact that we prefer our own cooking to going out and it's a regular dilemma.
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It's not a matter of - they'll get it for themself if they really want it. I don't care what you get just get me a dark chocolate bar, a single rose, something that I don't NORMALLY get because it's a splurge. Everyone has those things. At the very least take me out for a special deluxe cappucino and just look me in the eye for 30 min. It doesn't have to be a filet mignon dinner cooked at home. It doesn't have to be a diamond necklace. It DOES have to be an acknowledgement that you THOUGHT about me and went beyond your own little mind to DO something for me. The kind of gift or card isn't what matters as the EFFORT that you put forth on my behalf.
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