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Originally Posted by doodlebird
umm... is this normal? is it safe? he seems to be testing it out, like one might kick the tires on a car. he first bangs it lightly, then pretty hard.... on the windows, on the doors, the floors, his high chair, tables... just about anything hard. i'm worried that when he's in his crib, he could literally knock himself silly.
any one with older kids been through this?
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Well were to begin,
Not something I like to tell most people because it is a bit embarassing.
Im 19 turning 20 and have "head-banged" all my life, and still do to this day! Most kids grow out of it but I never did. It is harmless for 99% of kids. What most people have posted above is pretty much correct, don't be worried about it at all, its not hurting him.
Let me clear up a few things and tell you what your baby is actually feeling
-First and foremost, it is the most relaxing and calming thing I can do when I'm stressed out.
-I only do it on my pillow, but do remember using any surface I could as a kid.
It's so hard to explain why/how it feels good but ill try my best. For me its like this: When you are really stressed or have something on your mind, alot of people (me included) can do something like listen to music to relax and take that stress off. Its JUST like that feeling. If I listen to music AND headbang I am the most relaxed I could possibly be. (more relaxed then being high or anything ive experienced)
I can also compare it to be almost a meditative state, where I can really "arrange" and workout my thoughts while I'm doing this.
For example, (this sounds made up, but it's not)
Alot of times in school I'll be working on essays or math problems. Say im stuck in an essay and can't think of anything to write next (writers block for example). If I take 5-10 minutes to just head bang and relax, 99% of the time I will be able to fix/solve the problem. Its weird but it works. I can "see" more clearly when I'm head banging and really think things over.
Thats the best I can describe it. If you have any other questions I'd love to help you out! Ask away.
Also, yes I could stop anytime I wanted. When your kids grows up he'll be fine, and he can control it easily. Right now im sure hes doing it (like i did) anytime he wants, because he doesnt know that its not normal! Once i grew up and realised no one else does it, I would just do it in my own personal time, like before bed. I rarely goto sleep without doing it. BUT i can easily goto sleep without it, like when you're younger and goto sleepovers. Its not an addiciton you dont HAVE to do it. Just feels better if you do
This actually took alot for me to write this, because as I said it is ab-normal and embarrassing for people that don't understand it.
But let me literate one more time doodlebird, its FINE and HARMLESS. He might grow out of it he might not. i find it to be a blessing! being able to focus,relax, and have such high concentration when I do it, really helps me out sometimes!