raeanna74

Go take him some for some coffee or take her a small trinket or card. Maybe even take them some dinner or takeout if you can't cook. After the shock of a trial like that you almost loose interest in making anything to eat. You need it but you just don't think about it. Tell them you are thinking of them and if they need ANYTHING to ask and you will help in any way you can.

Don't forget that the pain isn't over when they've stopped talking about it. If you disappear with your support in just a few weeks it multiplies the pain. Be there now and down the road.

Also - don't tell them this "is for the best" or "it will work out" or "it's God's will" or any of that kind of thing. The bitterness of this kind of loss would only turn those cliches into salt in the wound for them.

Since you are both religious you can pray with both of them. Perhaps even daily if you and they have the time. Offer to watch their daughter so that they can go out on their own maybe. They will need time together alone to work through the grief.

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