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EleqTrizi'T · 05-09-2005, 06:56 PM

Ok, here's the situation.

My wife and I moved in with her uncle John three years ago. He was 75 at the time and we watched after him, and toward the end (he died Friday morning), we also became his sole caregivers. He was sick for about a year before dying (stroke, pneumonia a few times, ephesyma (sp?) among other ailments).

He was married for about a year when he was younger, but his step-daughter came around even after the divorce whenever she needed something (John's words, not mine).

Well, here's the story part now that the backdrop is set....

About a two years ago, his step-daughter volunteered to fix our Dodge Neon when it started bleeding oil. John gave the SD $400 for parts and was going to have it fixed for my wife as a Mother's Day gift, and we let the SD take the car.

Well, the car was supposed to be done in a week, but it turned into 7 weeks. After constantly badgering her for that long and being told "it's almost done" for weeks, I went to tow the car away to get it repaired elsewhere...... and found the engine in the trunk. Despite this, I did NOT say ANYTHING negative despite my IMMENSE pain of seeing our car in pieces. I took the high road, and I'm proud of it.

This is what the car looked like when I got it back...

Anyway, after that the SD never came around again. So when we FINALLY found her phone # in John's office it was already Thursday of last week. She never got to see him before he died, and she was pretty pissed off.

So here's the TFP one-million dollar question..

To my wife and I, the bottom line was in the two years since the Neon incident, she never called, or came by, so I feel it's COMPLETELY unreasonable for her to be upset at US for not contacting her earlier about John being sick. If you love someone, like she claims she loved John, you make an effort to keep in contact, right? It's not my resposibility to keep their relationship in tact. If she had called even ONCE in the past year, we would of called her back. We're big people and do the right things, no matter what we think of someone.

05-09-2005, 06:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
EleqTrizi'T Insane	Am I out of line here? Ok, here's the situation. My wife and I moved in with her uncle John three years ago. He was 75 at the time and we watched after him, and toward the end (he died Friday morning), we also became his sole caregivers. He was sick for about a year before dying (stroke, pneumonia a few times, ephesyma (sp?) among other ailments). He was married for about a year when he was younger, but his step-daughter came around even after the divorce whenever she needed something (John's words, not mine). Well, here's the story part now that the backdrop is set.... About a two years ago, his step-daughter volunteered to fix our Dodge Neon when it started bleeding oil. John gave the SD $400 for parts and was going to have it fixed for my wife as a Mother's Day gift, and we let the SD take the car. Well, the car was supposed to be done in a week, but it turned into 7 weeks. After constantly badgering her for that long and being told "it's almost done" for weeks, I went to tow the car away to get it repaired elsewhere...... and found the engine in the trunk. Despite this, I did NOT say ANYTHING negative despite my IMMENSE pain of seeing our car in pieces. I took the high road, and I'm proud of it. This is what the car looked like when I got it back... Anyway, after that the SD never came around again. So when we FINALLY found her phone # in John's office it was already Thursday of last week. She never got to see him before he died, and she was pretty pissed off. So here's the TFP one-million dollar question.. To my wife and I, the bottom line was in the two years since the Neon incident, she never called, or came by, so I feel it's COMPLETELY unreasonable for her to be upset at US for not contacting her earlier about John being sick. If you love someone, like she claims she loved John, you make an effort to keep in contact, right? It's not my resposibility to keep their relationship in tact. If she had called even ONCE in the past year, we would of called her back. We're big people and do the right things, no matter what we think of someone.