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Hmm, I think I need to broaden my perception of need based on my child, as I was only looking at the independant relationships aspect.
I have found being needed by my child very limiting and restrictive personally. It has presented a real struggle within myself over the years. The first few years I was happy to deal with my childs needs and being needed and when she was smaller it was an experience that gave me a feeling of worth and importance to at least someones life.
As my child has now grown older and come into her own personality I find I have backed off and have now started to distance any emotional need so she can become independant in herself with only a guiding hand, so to speak. Though during this time I have also wanted to do things for myself, but found I can't because I am still needed as a mother. I find this difficult to deal with as I feel I am stuck and have no real options of my own. It is very difficult sometimes to 'not resent' her even though I do not regret one moment.
Perhaps having children when you are settled and with a partner, and you are happy in your place in the world is a different story. I can only imagine that it is.
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