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Originally Posted by RickB
Being wanted for my opinion or skills is better than being needed. Somehow, when I think of someone saying “I need your help” on something implies to me that they are not willing to put in some work figuring it out for themselves. Now if they say, “I want your help” with the implication that we would be working on whatever it is together and they might better themselves so they can do it alone the next time, that is a better feeling for me.
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This is a really good way of putting it. I think my confusion was over the way I learned to differentiate between the two; I always associated saying "I want" as being selfish, whereas saying "I need" is being clear and honest with what one really needs to be happy. But maybe it's just semantics. I like your definitions, anyway, and I will work to make them part of my thought patterns.