Actually, I think gay men are EXTREMELY attractive, and I think a lot of other women do as well (hence the spawning of the term "fag hag").
I think the reason TFP is heteronormative is because North American (and probably global) culture is heteronormative. we are a product of our environment, as the Naturalist would like us to believe.
Any time anyone feels like a thread is being too heteronormative, please speak up. I would really like to broaden my perceptions, as would a lot of other people here I believe.