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part of it I'll answer with a sentence from the article:

Part of the reasoning behind this is that we are culturally conditioned to look the other way, to avoid unpleasantness.

honestly, I've heard it so many times, that I can easily just run the track in my head like an automaton. I also don't think about it that much that when it does happen I don't think, "I'm going to explain to this person that it's annoying..."

But let's put honesty and communication on the table, there's a huge difference to someone that's just making small talk and one that's genuinely interested in learning about another persons heritage. It's taken you wanting to get to know us, that we in turn have let you know (without being passive aggressive) that it's something we don't like.

For all intrinisic purposes, I don't see the brown of my skin color. Even as I type this and i can see my arms and hands, but I don't think about it as such. When I walk down the street with Skogafoss I don't think of myself as an asian and a white girl walking down the street, I think of "us" walking down the street.

hmmm.. maybe this summer I'll wear 2 braids and see how many people ask me instantly what tribe I'm from. Yes, that happens alot too.

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