Guccilvr, glad to know that you have noticed more gay male voices speaking up. This was something I mentioned in the OP... that perhaps I was wrong, but that in the last few months that I have been on TFP, the gay male voice was silent as far as I knew. So I'm glad to have some history.
I agree with all, it doesn't matter to me what sexuality a TFP'er is, or even if they are just undecided (hell, I fit into that category sometimes)... but in some forums like this one, and in some of the member-only boards, sexuality is quite a prominent topic. It would be difficult for someone to contribute to those places without making their own sexuality known.
Strange, I'm glad you've had comments that are from other men and they haven't been shy. You have a point with this observation, too:
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Originally Posted by StrangeFamous
But maybe the fact is just there are more heterosexual voices than homosexual ones... so heterosexual comments will always seem prevalent.
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I just haven't seen ANY gay men posting in quite a long time, so that's why I start to wonder. I know you guys are out there, and I want to hear from you... I am just trying to understand why you might not feel comfortable posting. Please, if you can, give us your perspective if you are reading this!
In Martel's example, I have noticed some of these "I'm not gay, but..." and they bother me. Also, some people still carelessly use words like "gay" and "fag" as adjectives for behavior and personality traits, which also bothers me. They are signs that many straight men still feel very uncomfortable with any thought/behavior that could be taken as being gay, even if they are not homophobic themselves. I suppose we can't do much to change this, given the societal context of the TFP, but at least we can work more on noticing these comments and not being complicit.