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Originally Posted by smooth
Of course, she is only a young child. She is not sitting there calculating her needs versus responses. It's our responsibility as adults in our society to rear children in ways we think are beneficial for our society. But if we remove violent interaction from the classroom, and from the home, and the child is still acting violently, we need to start peering around and find out just where she is picking it up from. Children do not have inherent behaviors, they learn them.
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I couldn't agree more with the last statement, that children learn what we teach them and I appreciate that we have different outlooks on this.
I should add to my arguments that I was rather severely physically abused by my father for most of my childhood and that experience has given me more than a slight hesitation in using violence to solve a situation. I say that because I don't see the police behavior or the handcuffing as a violent reaction because of the way that it was performed, they didn't add the emotion into the action that typically would accompany violence.
I would hope that handcuffing anyone would be unnecessary, but having also done my own stint in official corrective institutions I can also speak from experience that for some people all the love and all the non-interventional measures in the world sometimes aren't sufficient and that's the basis of my position. Because of my home life growing up I ignored or discarded the consequences of certain things, until I reached a point that an external stimulus forced me to re-evalute my behavior. I wasn't getting this at home, and though I don't have evidence to this fact, I would say that this girl isn't getting those lessons either.