maleficent

OK here it is:
The father may not be in her life, but you are not the father, unless specifically asked, don't discipline the daughter you aren't the parent, let the parent do the parenting. Don't contradict the momma about the daughter. (I dated a dad, who had a teenage daughter, and she'd occassionally try to play me against her dad to get something she wanted.) Parent's rules win.

Kids are like puppies, they can scare easily, let her come to you. When you meet her, say hello, be friendly, but don't push too much, Just be yourself -- don't try too hard (kids aren't stupid, they know when they are being sucked up to) - and let the relationship with her develop naturally.

-- How many men has mom dated before you? that might be a clue as to how the daughter might act. Just read the daughters signals, and don't take anything personally. (IT's a test - it's just a test)

10 year olds can often act like 25 year olds, and in the next breath, act like they are 4, it's not you, it's them... that's just how they are. 10 year olds are fun, they're kids, but they are housebroken already... Enjoy the day...

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