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While the sex is an important part of our marriage, the foundation is trust. If Grace were to have an affair behind my back, it wouldn't be that she was having sex with another woman that would hurt me, though it would, so much as it would be that she didn't trust me enough to share with me that she had such feelings and desires, and the feeling that I wasn't enough for her.
I know that she finds other women attractive; she points them out to me so I can ogle them, too. I would never have an affair behind her back. I have built up a strong emotional relationship with another woman, and my wife knows all about it, and because I've been free and open with her about it, and because it isn't coming between us, she's fine with it, she's even encouraged me a bit.
I think of it this way. If I could never have sex with her again, would I still want to be with this woman? The answer is yes, the close freindship we share, the emotional intimacy we share, the absolute trust I have in her would all be there.
The biggest issue, the one that figures most prominently in divorce cases is money; sexual issues are secondary, important, very important, but secondary.
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