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Originally Posted by maleficent
Not so sure about that -- if one person is making a sacrafice for the other person, at some point that person is going to get tired of it it and is going to want to be themself.
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Again Mal, good points all (and in your previous thread, too--I certainly believe that you and Tom had an incredible understanding of each other, and that's rare). But I have to say that not every person will get tired of sacrificing, especially if they see what joy it brings to the person they love, and if the other person comes to trust and love them even more as a result.
Sometimes, in my own (precious few, sadly) sacrifices, I come to realize why I am so willing to give up some things... and that makes me realize why the person I am with is worth so much effort, and why I should continue trying. Sometimes, yes, resentment builds... and that can cause a break-up (I have nearly been to that point, myself)... but in the end, if you can get through it together, I think it can strengthen instead of embitter you. Hell, even if you do break up, at least you both tried damn hard.
Then again, I am in a more optimistic mood this evening, than I was at 5am last night, as you saw... so I do understand the more hesitant, guarded, pessimistic side, too.