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Originally Posted by abaya
Also I used to even dread saying it to my parents a lot before 9/11, since they said it all the time to me, but since that day I have felt much better saying it as often as I can. You really just never know when you might lose someone... and even if you don't lose them, what harm does it cause to say it often, if you mean it?
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I've mentioned this in passing before, but i'll bring it up again... not for sympathy or anything but eg -- i don't know... I lost my best friend of more than 30 years who was working in the towers on 9/11 -- plus about 15 other people that I had close working relationships with... I am not the type of person who will blurt out I Love You, it's not in my chemistry, if I said it, it probably wouldn't be genuine. People know I care and in some cases know I love them because I give them time, and I give them myself. that's way more importan that three words. Tom and I never said we loved each other, but there's wasn't a day that went by that I didn't know how he felt, and I know it was the same for him. I know when I see him again, that the first words out of his mouth will not be, yo bitch, why didn't you say you loved me, it will be just picking up where we left off. The affection was strong, the affection was there and will always be there,a nd there is not a day that goes by that I don't miss him with every fiber of my being, but it's never once entered into my head that it's the I Love You that I miss or need - it was what he gave to me