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Originally Posted by abaya
Gilda, I echo everything you said in your e-mail. I think the most powerful comment was this:
This reminds me of the book on the five love languages... anyone read that? It is about learning what ways your partner best receives love (words, touch, gifts, service, or quality time), and how you best receive love. Also, how to adjust so that you can give love to them in the way they need it most, and also adjust so that you can receive what they're offering in return (even if it doesn't always match what you need). Matching up needs, I guess.
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I just finished that book with my wife actually. That is exactly what I was going to reference though. People show and feel love in different ways. Being able to express that between each is an important part of a relationship. If the other person likes to hear "I love you" a lot and you love them, then tell them. It may not carry the same meaning to you, but to them it means the world. This is how my wife is. I personally would rather her show she loves me by doing something for me, or with me, instead of just verbalizing it (although I like that too, just not as often as she seems to). Therefore, learn what shows your partner you love them, and do that. Love shouldn't be all about you.
