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Originally Posted by abaya
And now I will ramble: why does it come so much easier to my bf when we are physically together, when he is already affirming me in many other ways (physically, for one)... but then when we are hundreds of miles apart each week, he knows that I long for affectionate words even more in the distance... and yet he does not express such things? It is a puzzle to me, even though he and I have discussed this.
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abaya, people are just wired differently. As an example, maybe in his mind the love is such an unspoken given it frustrates him because it comes across that you don't have his faith in the relationship and need constant affirmation. 2 very different ways of looking at it, but both can be true. It seems that there's no changing how we each demonstrate and feel love, you just have to recognize different people will all have different ways of communicating and we are all too old to figure out another way at this point.