I dont believe that sex is the most important thing.
I know that many people say that if a lover cheats it is a trust issue, and i agree with that.
However, after that you're dealing with two choices : 1) You love this person, s/he is the love of your life and you forgive them ...
OR 2) You say you love them, but the truth is after they cheat you dont see them the same way and you fear you cannot ever trust them again and you break it off ...
To me that is NOT love, and in reality, i think that if someone cannot forgive it may be due to some issues/bad experiences in their life..or like i said before, it's not true love.
I have trust issues due to my upbringing and bad experiences, but I would forgive my man if he cheated (as long as it wasn't a regular thing.. im no human doormat) because he's the love of my life and I know I would rather let him rebuild that trust than to boot him out of my life forever.
Trust CAN be built up again assuming you will ALLOW that person to do so (and assuming they are, to you, WORTH the effort). People are human.. if they cave in and give in, it's a human error, a mistake. A big mistake, no doubt about that.
To error is human, to forgive divine
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