Chicken... yeah, I know it's a long list...
I was sort of just brainstorming as I went... but honestly, I don't think it's so much about memorizing rules, as just internalizing them to the point where fair fighting becomes second nature during conflict with the SO. Some people can fight fairly without any "rules," because they're just like that (though TWO people like that in one relationship? never seen it myself). Like I said, my parents never did any of this, so for me I have to be conscious about it in order to know that I'm not turning into them. Think of them more as... guidelines.
On the tears... what if they aren't being used as a weapon? If really strong emotions overcome someone, I think crying is the same as needing to walk out suddenly. As long as they aren't done with malice/manipulation in mind, then I think they're both okay?...
btw Mal, from all your posts I've read, I certainly don't think you suck at relationships. In your case, I think your fair rule is that "I need to get up and walk out if I get too pissed off, so please let me do that." As long as it gets communicated at some point before/after, well that's fair 'nuff in my opinion.