TroutKind

she's cheating, she's cheating, she's cheating!!!!
the signs are all there man.
reading your thread almost made me sick casue it reminded me so much of what happened to me.
being cheated on is a hard one to swallow. i was with a girl for over 3 years and lived with her for about 2. our relationship had started really changing, sex, her friends she said she was going out with, being late from work, buying new clothes, lots of them. when you are with someone so long you know them and things just weren't right between us. it turns out she was cheating with this guy at work.
when it all came out, it was mainly because i never made the "marriage" commitment to her. personally i think that is a cop out.
if she is doing this now, then it will be really hard to trust her once again.
what would marriage change? you will be just as committed to her afterwards (marriage) i would guess, so what's a piece of paper?
dude, she is cheating and there is nothing you can do about it! sorry to be so pessamistic.
life goes on and there are plenty of better women out there.