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guthmund, the only way you could interpret what I wrote as questioning your manhood is if you linked fighting abilities (or how many fights you've been in) with manhood.
but that's pretty much what I suspect is underpinning a lot of responses here.
kinkykiwi seems to like the thought of friends taking their friends out back and beating the shit out of them as a "duty" to check someone. that's great if she wants more men like that. she should probably be told by the more experienced women in here that those are the men who are most likely to haul off and hit her when they're angry and/or intoxicated.
people like seaver, if he acts like he posts, are more likely to hit a woman in a momentary lapse of control, or as a threat to his perceived root of masculinity as attached to violence, are more likely to become violent than someone who says, you know, maybe you should not go around punching people to prove points.
now, I used to think like that when I was a kid in high school. but that's a long time ago.
and while I still can hold my own, and have no problem with defending someone who isn't at fault but is still in jeopardy at a reasonable level, friendship, to me, is about respect and not proving things to one another.
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