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ryborg · 04-17-2005, 11:40 PM

Here is something that has helped me out:

When I feel like there is something wrong I ask myself what the problem is. Am I feeling depressed? Am I feeling angry? Once I figure out what the problem is I ask myself, "why?" Why am I feeling depressed? Why am I feeling angry? This part can be the most difficult, but the trick is to be completely honest with yourself. Finally, if you think the answer you discovered may be a problem for you, accept it. DO NOT DENY IT. Once you can come to accept a problem for what it really is (a problem) you will be able to start doing something about it, and eventually even fix it. So for example:

1. Ask yourself what is bothering you. Is it your inability to be yourself in public? Is it your cold attitude towards others?

2. Ask yourself why this is a problem. Why do I feel bad about my inablility to express myself in public? Why do I feel bad about my cold attitude? Remember, be completely honest with yourself, do not deny anything or "dismiss" it because you think its rediculous. Listen to the honest answer, and DO NOT JUDGE IT. Only listen to what your inner self is trying to say.

3. After discovering the answers to the first two questions, ask yourself if you have a problem. If you do, accept that you have a problem. Think honestly and openly about what might have caused the problem. Again, do not pass judgement on the answers you discover. Once you know what is bothering you, and why it is bothering you, you can start taking steps towards fixing it.

For me taking these very simple steps can help you find out what is wrong, find out why it feels wrong, and then help you fix it. I also have a social problem myself, and I denied it and hid it away for two years. Finally, I did the process above, and accepted my problem. Now I am working towards repairing it. You sound like you may be in a similar situation. It really helped me to examine why I felt bad and listen to the honest answers, without passing any judgements over them. If you find that you have a problem, do not deny its existence, and do not deny that something caused it. Once you can accept yourself, you can take the first steps towards repairation.

04-17-2005, 11:40 PM	#10 (permalink)
ryborg Crazy	Here is something that has helped me out: When I feel like there is something wrong I ask myself what the problem is. Am I feeling depressed? Am I feeling angry? Once I figure out what the problem is I ask myself, "why?" Why am I feeling depressed? Why am I feeling angry? This part can be the most difficult, but the trick is to be completely honest with yourself. Finally, if you think the answer you discovered may be a problem for you, accept it. DO NOT DENY IT. Once you can come to accept a problem for what it really is (a problem) you will be able to start doing something about it, and eventually even fix it. So for example: 1. Ask yourself what is bothering you. Is it your inability to be yourself in public? Is it your cold attitude towards others? 2. Ask yourself why this is a problem. Why do I feel bad about my inablility to express myself in public? Why do I feel bad about my cold attitude? Remember, be completely honest with yourself, do not deny anything or "dismiss" it because you think its rediculous. Listen to the honest answer, and DO NOT JUDGE IT. Only listen to what your inner self is trying to say. 3. After discovering the answers to the first two questions, ask yourself if you have a problem. If you do, accept that you have a problem. Think honestly and openly about what might have caused the problem. Again, do not pass judgement on the answers you discover. Once you know what is bothering you, and why it is bothering you, you can start taking steps towards fixing it. For me taking these very simple steps can help you find out what is wrong, find out why it feels wrong, and then help you fix it. I also have a social problem myself, and I denied it and hid it away for two years. Finally, I did the process above, and accepted my problem. Now I am working towards repairing it. You sound like you may be in a similar situation. It really helped me to examine why I felt bad and listen to the honest answers, without passing any judgements over them. If you find that you have a problem, do not deny its existence, and do not deny that something caused it. Once you can accept yourself, you can take the first steps towards repairation. __________________ Solve two problems at once. Feed the homeless to the hungry. Last edited by ryborg; 04-17-2005 at 11:49 PM..