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Originally Posted by la petite moi
I think if drink was involved, you should dismiss it as a one time thing. HOWEVER, keep an eye on your friend and his girlfriend. If you notice things happening that are out of control, report it.
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With all due respect, if my boyfriend got drunk and hit me hard enough to leave a mark, I would NOT dismiss it as a one time thing. I have never been hit by a man and I have no intention of opening the door to it, which is how I would see this.
As for the OP's question - I guess what I'd do is check in with the girlfriend and find out her version of the story, friendship or not. If it sounded like abuse, I'd encourage her to do something about it. And I'd probably end up losing my friend when she told him and he got mad, but oh well. What I would not do is pursue getting involved beyond that point - it's up to her to do something about it and if two are playing the game, no outsider will be able to make them change. I do think it's important to help people being abused by pointing out what's going on though - it seems that a lot of the time they are confused and just want to make excuses for the abuser.