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Well, you've done the hardest part, and that's figuring it out for yourself. I shut that part of myself off for a long time and tried to deny it, and it had only bad consequences. Your girlfriend is going to either accept it or not, but she's going to need to know eventually.
I think there are a lot more people who are bi than will admit it to themselves, or who don't really understand what it means. I'm much more attracted to women than men, and I can't see myself ever having a sexual relationship with a man ever again, but I do derive a certain satisfaction from looking at certian men, so we're actually quite a bit alike in that way.
Sexuality is a contiuum. Some of us are all the way to one side--my wife is way over at the gay end--some of us are in the middle, and some of us are on the border. It's ok to look at and like guys, or girls and enjoy them both.
There's no need to tell your family unless they need to know, and if you never intend to have a romantic relationship with a man, there's really no need. It was a disaster when my family found out, but my wife's family accepts her just as she is. There's a whole range in between. Basically, though, your sexuality is your business, and that of intimate partners, and not really anyone else's.
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