I wasn't there, so i can't speak to that particular situation. However I was present when a couple that were both very good friends of mine got into a fight one evening. He begged her to leave him alone, to let him leave, etc. Each time he attempted to leave she would either block the door, kick and hit him, or jump on his back and pull his hair and other similar behavior....this guy did everything he could to walk away from the situation. She would not let him. He first tried to talk his way out of the house, which resulted in him getting beat. He then tried to use as little physical force as possible to enable hime to leave (physically moving her out of the way, pushing her out of the way etc.) he ended up having to hit her just so he could get out of the house so he didn't have to get the shit beat out of him anymore. Guess who went to jail for beating who? Yep he went for domestic violence, he had to hire a lawyer to defend himself in court, no charges filed against her. I was there when it happened, she was the agressor, he had two choices, let her seriously injure him or defend himself and leave as soon as he could. he chose the latter, and it cost him a fortune (and it cost me a day off work w/o pay in order to testify at his trial as a witness), but he was found not guilty. Sometimes you have to hit a woman. Granted this situation is far form the typical one, but sometimes it genuinely is self defense. Knee jerk reactions are almost never the best way to handle a situation.
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