I remember going through the process of realizing that I was bi and struggling with the decision to tell (or not to tell) people about it. It seemed like a very big deal then and now I almost never even think about it, it's just a part of who I am. I guess telling my mom was tough but she made it easy on me by being such an open-minded person. The hardest part was telling my friends who I had crushes on and yes, I did have to go through some rejection and awkwardness. These days it's such a non-issue, I really don't much care. But then I know bisexuality is much more accepted among women - it's harder if you're male, so I inevitably have had an easier time with this than you probably will. I personally have no problem with a guy being bi - actually I think it's normal. It's the heterosexuals I wonder about - I don't get shutting the door on half the human race like that...it seems so arbitrary. I much more prefer to think in terms of tendencies and likelihoods, and I'm pretty sure if you took those staunchly heterosexual men and stranded them on an island somewhere with another (hopefully attractive) man, it would just be a matter of time before they at least thought about it. Good for you for at least being honest with yourself! Who knows, maybe your girlfriend is bi too? Maybe she will understand. After all, she is attracted to guys, right? I personally find the thought of two men being together to be pretty exciting. Possibly this could open the door to increased communication and a new level of honesty in your relationship. Frankly I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't accept as fundamental a part of me as my sexuality. I guess if my boyfriend told me he was bi, the only thing I would really need from him would be reassurance that he was attracted to me and I'm sure you can give your girlfriend that. I hope this has the most positive possible outcome for you.
