Start doing all the nice little things women like, and do them several times a day. Give her casual kisses on the cheek or forehead, leave a little love note in an unexpected place. Sit down with her at the end of the day, hold hands, and ask her how her day was, and actually listen closely to what she has to say. Touch her casually on the arms and shoulders, caress her cheek, give her casual hugs. Give her a foot rub or a back massage.
Think of all the little casually affectionate things you can do for her, and do them without the expectation that you're going to get sex out of it. Don't try to separate the things you do for her into forplay and nonsexual. For most women, everything affectionate and caring you do for her is a form of foreplay. When the purpose is solely to get her in the sack, it feels like a tool. When the purpose is to make her feel good about herself and her relationship with you, she might not feel used as much and might relax and be more affectionate back.
Remember that, for many women, the physical and romantic relationship is everything you do, not just the sexually related things.
Gilda
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