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I think your girlfriend is feeling sorry for herself and making excuses. She wants to loose weight, but is talking herself out of it. If she doesn't have the energy, it's probably because she isn't more active. Active people have more energy generally than people who are not. She has to put in the effort...it's not ever going to be a piece of cake. I know, I'm trying to do exercise regularly and sometimes I just want to stay in bed and not go to the gym. But when I do I really feel better about myself. At the end of the day it's up to her...suggest she tries an activity she enjoys, not jogging. If she doesn't like it she'll just give up. Swimming is my choice, great all round exercise and it doesn't cost so much to go to your local pool.
As for you broaching the subject with her...try to bring it up in a camouflaged manner, like when she mentions exercise or food, whatever. Just never be blunt about it. Maybe if you go with her it'll give her the incentive she needs, company is great for distracting you from how self-conscious you might feel to start with.
One more thing...what's with the totally unhealthy diet? I know you want to be nice, but if she only eats junk, refuses to exercise, and then brings up dieting and that she wants to loose weight...uuuh she can't really talk before she's even trying at all. One healthy meal a day to start, come on. How hard can it be? Baby steps. Good luck to you.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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